Bond of Brothers

Jayden snatching toy from Ivan. Cannot even take a nice picture without the boys moving much. Gee

You can choose who to be your friends but you definitely can't choose your family members. That's what people say and I can't contest to that.

As a normal unique human being, it can be tough not easy trying to live with one another under the same roof without arguments and conflicts. Everyone has differences and I had to admit that I am not very close to my siblings and I blamed it on the age gaps between us. Okay, okay, okay. I know it's just an excuse anyway because there are some others who managed to make it. *lalalalaa* That's another story for another day.

Back to my point. So, when I was planning for a 2nd baby previously, I gave this point a thought. My children would have 4 years gap and to translate that into simple numbers, Ivan's 5, Jayden is 1. When Jayden starts his Year 1, Ivan would be in Year 5. Ivan steps into his active-energetic-full of surprises teen life, Jayden just hit puberty. *sigh* What if the boys couldn't get along or wouldn't have common interests to share or when watching movies together seems like a bore or when having family time seems like a chore? The only thing they would be sharing is probably just the bedroom. Sad.

Just then, a little bird knocks me hard on the head and yelled, "Why the heck do you want to be worried about a non-existence issue?". *Fingers cupped on the chin, pondering on words from the wise bird*

The bird's right. Let nature takes it own course. Afterall, the boys seem are fine now. As a matter of fact, they are more than just fine. They love each other a great deal. (errmm .. though there are times when Ivan doesn't want to share his precious bread or Jayden snatches toys from Ivan. Well, part of growing up)

At the sight of Ivan, Jayden would never fail to beam with a bright cheerful smile. He gets excited at Ivan's funny faces and he laughs at Ivan's jokes though he probably doesn't understand it at all. As for Ivan, try telling him that you want to take Jayden away from him and he is ready to fight you anytime. He's protective over Jayden especially when daddy chided at JayJay and Ivan says, "Are you crazy? He's just a baby". He's a happy helper when comes to special requests to help take care of JayJay. He would love to help you swinging JayJay and now, he even wants to try carrying JayJay up. (which is not possible now as JayJay weighs more than half of Ivan).

There. Nothing to worry about. I'm not sure about how would they be in another 10 years time or how bad their fights will be. They will probably still fight once a while. Afterall, life would be so plain and boring without it. Besides, we bond through arguments. Hmmm ... nonetheless, despite all the face pinching and leg kicking, I do hope that they would love each other just like how they are now.